It is hard to believe the end of February is upon us. The last two months have been a study of discipline for me and the results have been wonderful. I have learned many things about myself and how I approach habits and goals. I have acquired new habits I thought I would never make.  I have moved closer to goals I thought unattainable. New opportunities have opened I have never dreamed possible. It has been a very exciting sixty days.

I have learned my discipline is directly correlated to how well I understand why I want the new habit or goal. When I understood my motivation and desire, building the new habit  was easy. A clearly defined target is also a deciding factor. I found when I didn’t know why I wanted to do something or didn’t know when it would be ‘successful,’ it became very difficult to make the necessary changes. I found that writing probably helped me the most to making those connections with my goals and dreams. Getting a coach made the difference in staying focused on the day-to-day habits.

I am going to shift gears and major topic starting next month. It doesn’t mean I am giving up on discipline. I will continue to use what I have learned every day. I need to stay disciplined on my goals and habits.  I am still going to write on discipline from time to time as new ideas and thoughts strike me. I plan on doing some interviews with people I feel are very disciplined and can teach me something. The next few months will be “applied discipline,” taking what I have learned and investigating some new topics. I hope you will join me.

Here is a round up of some of the things that have helped me the most:

The top five posts for the last two months were:

Pay It Forward 2011
Guest post: Getting Back On The Wagon
It’s Your Ship by Captain D. Michael Abrashoff
Sometimes Smaller Is Better
Discipline And Goals

Thank you for reading!

 

Our guest writer is Thom Stratton. He has an MBA, worked on a newspaper, writes Simple Self Reliance (a blog on recapturing lost arts of doing it yourself), worked as a requirements analyst, actually understands social media marketing and is at least ten times smarter than me. He also started a business this year, too.

I’m a firm believer in David Allen’s precept that your mind is not free to function at full capacity until it is able to let go of all the things you need to remember. It can only do this, however, if you have a good, reliable system for capturing and maintaining the list of all the things it would otherwise need to remember for you. Getting to that point, at least initially, is accomplished by doing what he calls a “Brain-Sweep”.

A Brain-Sweep is essentially a brainstorming of everything that needs to be done. You write everything down without trying to deal with it in any way until you feel like you’ve gotten everything out of your head. I’m often reminded of the imagery from Harry Potter when Dumbledore extracts memories from his own head to store in his magical basin, the pensieve.

Allen’s approach is to devote a day or more going to each physical location where you do work, looking at everything you have that represents a possible “thing to do”, or at least worry about, and catalog it. While I’m sure it’s a helpful approach, it takes a long time. And from my own experience of having achieved a becalmed mind before, I don’t think it’s entirely necessary.

It may even be counterproductive, actually. If you go looking for things to do, you’ll always find some. It may be as insignificant as “find a place to stick my spare change”, but it’ll be another item on your list. Once on your list, you have to take the time to deal with it, even if it’s to decide not to do anything about it. So purposely making your list as large as you can make it can actually stress you out more (look at all the stuff I’ve got to do!!!), and make you take longer sorting through it all instead of just getting on to the stuff that’s most important.

So for my part I believe in doing your brain sweep only until you’re reasonably sure you’ve got all the really important stuff. Then you start dealing with it. Yes, more stuff will come up that perhaps you should have captured before, but it won’t take any longer to capture it and deal with it now than it would have to try and remember it all before moving on.

I also have to question whether it is necessary to physically put yourself in each workspace in order to do your brain sweep. Yes, it can help, and I do use that approach at times. But here are a few other strategies I’ve used to help me brain sweep wherever I may be (ie. waiting at the dentist’s office this morning):

  • Mentally picture a location and make your mind walk around there. I do this when sweeping for tasks and honey-dos around home. I take a mental walk through my house, purposely picturing details in each room, on each wall, etc. Pretty soon I’m remembering “Oh yeah, that curtain rod needs reinforcing”.
  • Review your current roles. Think about each role you fill in life. For example, in addition to my work, I’m a father, a husband, a church music director, an HOA president, and a guest blogger. Just spending a few minutes thinking about things I’d like to accomplish in each of those roles is likely to yield at least a half-dozen task for each role.
  • Review your list of tasks. Quite often just looking at some of the tasks on my list and starting to think about what each might entail will shake loose another (sometimes even unrelated) task I may have forgotten.
  • Group your task list. I sometimes find that in going through my list of tasks and starting to group them by context or location I will start to make new mental connections that unearth related tasks. It’s almost as if we have to sneak up on memories from unexpected directions in order to flush them out.

So far I’ve found that by trying some or most of these strategies I am able to sweep out most of the most irksome, stress-inducing tasks. Perhaps the resulting catharsis from Allen’s method is even more pleasant, but I find that just getting the majority of my more important tasks down is often enough to let my mind relax. It also allows me to not get bogged down in creating too large a list and instead move on to managing my tasks.

This in turn allows me to get on to building up the habits of capturing all new tasks as they come along. At that point it doesn’t matter if a task is a new one, or an old one that was overlooked initially. The minute it surfaces I can capture it and manage it.

Most importantly, these strategies help me get past the initial brain sweep stage. If I had to find even four uninterrupted hours in my current schedule I’d probably never get organized. These strategies can be used wherever you are, and with as much or as little time as you have available.

If you have the time to give it the “Full Allen”, then great! I suspect it would be a valuable experience. But I’ve also seen (and been) people fail from not being able to settle for “good enough” and pursue “perfect” to the point of burnout. It need not be an all-or-nothing venture with Allen’s system–sometimes just getting started and growing into it may even work better.

I write this having just completed my brain sweep at the dentist’s office this morning. I know I don’t have everything captured yet, but I’ve got enough that my mind feels comfortable with my list. It knows that accomplishing what is on it will feel really good. I’m ready to move on into setting up my tools and my routine. More on that after I’ve got some progress to report.

 

I was talking with my coworkers today and one commented on how disciplined I am. Wow! That comment put me on Cloud Nine! Of all the compliments she could have paid me, that is the one I have been craving.

I have made progress this year on being more disciplined. It felt so good to have someone other than my wife recognize it. Not that my wife doesn’t count or anything like that. I value her opinion. It is just really nice to hear someone out of the blue make that observation. I spent the rest of the day basking in a warm glow.

Later in the day, my team and I were having a discussion on the book Multipliers: How the Best Leaders Make Everyone Smarter by Liz Wiseman. I highly recommend this book, by the way and a full review is forthcoming. Anyway, we were discussing how to help people realize their maximum potential. I contemplated this question in context with the earlier remark. What has made me more successful than I have ever been at personal discipline?

I concluded this blog has a lot to do with it. For the past eight weeks I have been turning inward and writing about discipline, what it means, how to get it and keep it. I believe this constant examination has helped me form the new habits of which I am beginning to reap the rewards. I have had 36 exercise sessions since January 1. I have continued running, making ten runs in that time (it is cold here and I wimp out below 25 degress). Earlier this week I ran 5K without stopping for the first time! Last summer when I started running, I would never have believed I could have made it one mile, much less 3.2! I have lost ten pounds. I have read 8 books. I have written twenty-eight short essays. I’m sleeping better than I have in years. No wonder I feel great!

I have you, dear reader, to thank. The act of writing requires thought and examination. I firmly believe it is that thought and examination that has resulted in the success I am enjoying. Why? When one thinks about something, the mind starts subconsciously working on the problem, stiffening resolve and finding ways to come up with solutions.

Sunday, I was given a mini candy bar. I had it in my hand. I could have eaten it and it wouldn’t have bothered me. One wouldn’t have hurt my diet. I put it back in the bag when no one was looking. I didn’t need it and I didn’t want it. Two months ago I would have taken a couple more from the bag instead.

I am convinced more than ever to make significant improvement on a goal, problem or challenge, writing is key. It doesn’t have to be public, although it helps. Even though I don’t if anyone will read what I am writing, it pushes me to do better because someone just might call me out on it. That little bit of knowledge of someone else is watching is just enough to spur me to action on most of my goals.

I listed a bunch of successes above. How about the failures? I haven’t even come close to the woodturning project goals. I have only made one. I didn’t even complete everything I needed to do, either. I haven’t written a word about it in a long time. That is going to change. That will be the test. If I write about it, I bet it changes. That which gets measured, improves. Right?

So, here is today’s challenge. Take one of your goals. Grab a pen and a journal. Write about it. Describe it. List the difficulties you are having in hitting it. Discuss possible solutions. Thoroughly examine this new habit you desire in writing. No one has to read it but you.

I am curious as to your experience. Does it help you like it has helped me? Does writing help you organize your thoughts and amplify your actions? Please share in the comments. I would love to hear what you think. Good luck and good writing!

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