Dan

 

Alec Stratton as Willy Wonka

A couple mornings ago, I was laying in bed, trying to convince myself to get up and go running. The problem was I felt drained of all energy, too tired to get up and do the things I wanted to do. Rather than get up, I started wondering about why I felt so drained. After starting to make a mental list, I realized why. I have been in a Life Pile Up and didn’t even know it.

What’s a Life Pile Up? For the past six weeks, I have been in constant motion, running from project to project, making choices to work on important projects, but dropping lots of others in the process. All those dropped tasks just don’t go away and now they are all coming back to haunt me. I have an overwhelming feeling of being buried in critical tasks that can no longer be ignored. Life Pile Up.

Step 1: Don’t Despair

When I get that drowning feeling, I usually respond by getting down on myself. “If only I were a little more efficient and effective, I wouldn’t be in this situation. Something must be wrong with me.” In my old age, I am finally starting to understand that kind of self-talk doesn’t help. Instead, I started listing all the things I said ‘Yes’ to over the past six weeks. Stacking the ‘Yeses’ up against the ‘No‘ to helps me realize what I accomplished as well as analyze my judgement. My list of completed projects included:

  • I built a bed that turns into a boat.
  • Took the family on a trip to San Francisco.
  • Found a contractor and had the front yard landscaped.
  • Prepared our tent trailer for sale (and received a full offer on it last night!)
  • Moved our daughter home after completion of her first year of college.
  • Made a quick trip with my brother to see our mother (recovering nicely, thank you).
  • Attended every performance of Willy Wonka, starring our son as Willy himself.
  • Finished wiring my neighbor’s basement bathroom in time for company from Australia.
  • Refocused on diet and exercise and lost 7 pounds (so far).
  • Managed to get Alec to rehearsals, performances, recitals and contests.
  • Moved several projects at work forward.
  • Kept up on the daily chores like cooking, washing, finances, and such.
Looking at the list makes me feel pretty good about everything I accomplished. I have nothing to be ashamed of. Yet, with all this in the completed column, I still have that overwhelmed feeling.
Step 2: Understand what is left to do

Clearly something is bothering me. I started by writing down everything I had floating around in my mind. Doing a mind sweep involves writing fast and furious about everything that needs to be done. No analysis, no prioritizing, just writing. It was amazing how much stuff was jammed into my subconscious. Getting it out was just what my mind needed. Getting it on paper felt like giving my mind space to breath, making room for clear thought. I know I am supposed to be doing these at least weekly, but in the rush of keeping up, weekly reviews had fallen to the side of the road.

My list didn’t take more than fifteen minutes to commit to paper. It included things like paying bills that had slipped through the cracks, following up on a couple bills where the automation I thought had set up failed, understanding why I was double paying my VISA (yikes!), fixing two broken sprinklers that were geysering, and chasing down another attempt to pfish my bank account. Pretty important stuff.

Step 3: Identify the critical

Looking at the list all laid out in front of me made it easy to identify why I was feeling anxiety. There were plenty of tasks that were time critical. Some were actually down to the wire, where inaction for one more day would have resulted in hefty consequences, like late fees or stolen identity. With everything identified, organizing the list into a prioritized order took very little time, perhaps five minutes.

I also found several items floating in my mind were not critical at all, but were just cluttering up my thought processes. I put these tasks on my normal lists where they will be addressed in due time. That is one thing to be careful of. The subconscious is not good at prioritizing when everything is jammed up.

Step 4: Action!

Finally, I was able to get started attacking the list. While it always feels good to finally be doing something, it is important to note had I not take time for the analysis in Steps 1-3, I would have probably started working on something less important that the list I now had in front of me. I would probably have started, realized something else was more critical and shifted over to work on that one, only to repeat the process over and over. A little planning can really focus efforts and accomplish tasks in their proper order.

Step 5: Evaluate

Taking the day off to work on my list was the best use of my time. I accomplished all but one of the seventeen items on the list when I started this morning, and it can easily be finished tomorrow. I have a calm feeling again. I have cleared the Life Pile Up and am once again sailing free on the freeway of life. I have learned that following these five steps can help enormously to getting myself clear. It would have been better to have been doing the mind sweeps all along, as part of a weekly review. I allowed myself to get out the habit in the heat of the battle. I have to watch that in the future. Avoiding Life Pile Ups is the best course of action, but at least I know a good way to get out should I drive straight into one again.

 

Crush It!: Why NOW Is the Time to Cash In on Your Passion by Gary Vaynerchuk  

If you have ever wanted a cheerleader for making a business on the Internet,  Gary Vaynerchuk is your guy. in Crush It!, Gary states, no, evangelizes his case for following a dream and making the jump to Internet business. The force of his personality leaps from the page, energizing the reader to absolutely believe they, too, can “crush it”.

Gary immigrated to America with his parents from Belarus when he was three. From an early age, he began selling. He sold baseball cards, building a small empire at his school before branching out to trade shows and the mall. His success was cut short when he turned fifteen and started working in the family wine shop. Even though he couldn’t drink the wares, he studied the wine guides and magazines to learn the lingo and be able to convince shoppers who came in for a bottle to take home a case. Then, during college, Gary discover YouTube.

Embracing the videos and convincing his father to let him, he started an Internet TV show dedicated to wine. Gary, who wasn’t happy being stuffy and pretentious like other wine critics. He used his personality and “earthy” ways to describe wine (including a NY Jets spit bucket) in a video blog. In a few short months, sales increased over 500%.

Vaynerchuk is convinced everyone can accomplish the same exciting feat of building and online brand and attracting a large following. From there, dreams come true (his dream is to buy the Jets and I believe he will somehow pull it off someday). Through out the book, as he discusses his beliefs on building an online business with the devotion most reserve for sports teams. His energy is infectious.

While light on detail, Gary lays out some of the methods for creating an audience. He discusses the importance of building a brand, creating great content and being available on every platform. What’s is most valuable, I believe, is his energy on the subject. He literally jumps off the page to motivate and make a believer out of the reader. The first time I read Crush It!, I was put off by the enthusiasm. This time through, however, it infected me and motivated me to start thinking about where my passion lies and how to leverage it.

My only complaint is the lack of detail on how to get started. I was hoping for a little more concrete detail. This book doesn’t have it, instead containing general concepts and discussions about some venues to be aware of while building an online empire. I had to go searching in other places to find the  detail and mentorship I wanted. Still, Vaynerchuk is a pretty good cheerleader.

 

I learned a lesson in customer service the last two weeks. Well, I should say I have learned the lesson for over 8 months, but those lessons have not been positive. Over the last month, I finally have a good example to follow.

Last fall, my wife hired a landscape architect to design a master plan for our new house. We have landscaped two houses before, but spent a lot of time and money redoing large portions each time. She wanted it to be done right the first time on this go around – something I really appreciate, since I really hate the work. The design done by Stephanie Hansen of Countryside Landscape Design was really well done. While Stephanie and Denise chatted merrily about plant species, I looked at the amount of grass to be removed, dirt to be brought in, boulders (not rocks, BOULDERS) to be placed and sprinkler lines to be moved. Ugh. This was going to be a lot of work for someone. Hopefully not by me.

Learning lessons in all the wrong places

I started calling landscape companies for bids. I figured with the economy being what it was and winter fast approaching, someone would like to pick up another job before the snow flew. Boy, was I wrong. I couldn’t get more than a couple of companies to even return my call. I finally convinced them to give me a bid, laying out the rule that Denise wanted to do all the planning of shrubs and flowers herself. She is the gardener, after all, and it would be therapy, not work, for her. Upon giving bids that included planting anyway, I requested they do as I asked and remove that part out from their bids. Their response was to not return my phone calls or emails. Silence. Nothing. Are you kidding me? How is that good customer service. It began to dawn on me that if I wanted this project done, I was going to have to do the work myself.

Testing a theory

When I read Write It Down, Make It Happen by Henriette Klauser, I started a small journal where I wrote down the things I wanted. Here is an entry for January 2, the very first day I began writing my desires down:

I want to pay someone else to do landscaping.

This is one dream I really wanted to happen, so in the early Spring, I started making more phone calls. The same thing happened. I would get estimates including the pieces I didn’t want them to do, only to be unceremoniously dropped when I requested it taken out. Finally, one landscaper confided that I was removing the biggest profit margin item on the list. By the way, he didn’t even call me back with the bid either – he just disappeared, too.

Finally, a good experience

I had just about given up when I came home one day to find a door hanger advertising a local company, Forrestbrook Landscaping. It even had a coupon for $200 off for a quick booking. I called immediately and to my surprise, not only did they answer the phone on a Saturday, Chris came over an hour later to look over the job. He had a bid back that very night for the exact job I requested. After I swallowed a little at the price, I realized I would have to reduce the scope of what I wanted done. I called Chris back. He enthusiastically discussed options and helped me develop a three-year plan to get the entire job done. He assured me breaking it up was no problem for him – he would be glad to do it.

Strike that. Make that a “great” experience

Chris and his gang got started early on Monday last week. They arrived exactly when they said they would. After a quick check on final details, the crew flew into the task. By the time I left for work an hour later, they had the sod removed, sprinkler system nearly fixed and were starting to dig holes for the trees. My neighbor, who builds houses and knows about landscapers, reported he was shocked to see how quickly they finished up, sweeping the sidewalks and street behind them. After a couple of rain delays, the curbing company showed up to finish the job. Even these guys were the best I have worked with, checking and making small modifications to the plan at no charge.

Testing customer service

The real proof came this week. I finally got a chance to work with the sprinkler system after the curbing had dried sufficiently. Water came shooting up out of the ground in the wrong place. I called back, hoping Chris would even answer my call. After  all, he had his money. Not only did he answer, he had a crew over the next day to see what was wrong. They found the break in the worst possible place, directly under the new curbing. After a little puzzling over options, they figured out how to cap the pipe. They wanted the pipe to dry for a couple of hours before testing, so he requested I call him when I did. When I called back at 8:30pm, he cheerily answered the phone. Clearly, his stock is rising in my book.

Now for the real test…

Late last night, Denise was preparing the list of shrubs for planting. This is a multi-hour research process for her which she dearly loves. In the process, she discovered Chris had missed a couple small boulders in one bed on the plan. I figured there is no way they would want to deal with that now, since the boulders are from a quarry in another county and would be overly costly to deal with now. I figure the best we could hope for was to have them include it in next year’s effort. I suggested she email Chris and let him know, bracing myself for the worst. I offered to place them myself in a hopeful compromise. To my surprise, Chris replied within 15 minutes, apologizing for the miss, promising to get the boulders and place them for us. He is even offering to let us take advantage of his discount with a local nursery for the shrubs Denise wants.

Customer for life

Did all this service cost Forrestbrook Landscaping money? Absolutely! It has taken time from their other jobs and money out of their profit. What is the result? There is no doubt on who I am calling for the rest of my landscaping. Whenever anyone asks for a reference, I will gush praise until they ask me to stop. I’ll even write a blog post about it. These guys get it! The money they will get from future sales will far surpass the small investment of time and money now. They have just secured another salesman whom they don’t have to pay. Customer service may cost more in the short-term, but in the grand scheme, it the best thing for the business.

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